It’s never enough to hear some tips on this topic. We all know it, but sometimes it’s good to have a little reality-check to see if you’re actually practicing it!
First of all, get ready for a talk!
Not only need you to schedule a call. You also should get in the mood. 5 minutes before the time comes, clear away your thoughts. Stop worrying about anything. Smile. Feel grateful that you’re living and that everything’s ok. Feel the desire to share your positive mood with someone. His or her mood may not be as good as yours, so they really need you. When you give, you feel happy.
The second step would be actual talk. Keep in mind that politness is a privilege of dignified people. It is a key to people’s hearts. For your talk to be polite, you could follow some of these tips:
- Attend to H’s interests, needs, wants. (“You sound sad. Can I do anything?”)
- Use solidarity in-group identity markers (Mate, friend, brother etc.)
- Be optimistic
- Include both speaker and hearer in activity (we’ll both …)
- Offer or promise
- Exaggerate interest in hearer and his interests
- Avoid disagreement
After the talk, go to talkoclock.com and give the “thumbs up” to your caller or the person you caller. Unless the call was very far from good. Because what goes around, comes around. Probably next time you will be upset, and this person will be in a great mood. If you give him ‘thumbs up’, he/she may remember it and call you. Who knows?
Think about the happened call for several seconds. What positive things has it brought to your day? Appreciate it and feel grateful to that person. If you do this, the rest of your day will be as amazing. You’ll be attracting more great people and things if you just keep smiling!
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